tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-40943677518228531802024-03-18T23:09:37.652-05:00Life inside these hearing aidsSorry... what'd you say?Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.comBlogger120125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-76183868659447997032012-01-23T20:24:00.000-06:002012-01-23T20:24:03.497-06:00The strike is over! We beat 'em!Okay, there was really no strike, but I'm morally obligated to quote <i>Newsies </i>as much as possible.<br />
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Success! Netflix seems to be mostly back to normal, showing 74 pages worth of subtitled content (<a href="http://lifeinsidethesehearingaids.blogspot.com/2012/01/update-on-netflix-subtitles.html" target="_blank">up from 17 pages last week</a>).<br />
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I don't know if our emails and calls and tweets and blog posts had anything to do with it or not but regardless, it would be a good idea, after all of that, to say, "Thank you." There are two sides to the advocacy coin: asking for help and appreciating it when it's offered. So often, we master the first but don't give the second any thought.<br />
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If you'd like to thank Netflix and show your support for subtitled and captioned content, here's how you can contact them:<br />
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Submit an email through the <a href="http://www2.netflix.com/ContactPR" target="_blank">Contact Public Relations form</a><br />
Call them at 1-866-501-1604<br />
Follow and send tweets to <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/netflix" target="_blank">@netflix</a>, <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/Netflixhelps" target="_blank">@netflixhelps</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/neilhunt" target="_blank">@neilhunt</a><br />
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I should say more eloquent things now but that cold I've been expecting for over a week has finally made an appearance so I'm going wallow and (thanks to Netflix!) watch old episodes of <i>Ugly Betty</i>.<br />
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Are you back on the Netflix bandwagon? Hit up the comments below!Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-59680545703415670052012-01-19T22:29:00.000-06:002012-01-19T22:29:48.184-06:00Update on Netflix subtitles<i>Gaaaah</i>. My brain hurts. I have not been this wound up about something since the last time I was out of <a href="http://www.nutellausa.com/" target="_blank">Nutella</a>. <div><br />
</div><div>Anyway, I finally got a Twitter response from <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/netflixhelps" target="_blank">@netflixhelps</a> that said, "We're working on it." (I tried to get a screenshot but I'm techno-dumb at the moment and can't figure out how to do it on my trusty old laptop. It's probably as easy as picking your nose but whatever, have I mentioned that my brain is fried? Also, I've been on a Mac all day at work and I'm pretty sure some things just get lost in translation when I get home to hang out with my PC.) I also noticed a couple of other tweets from <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/netflixhelps" target="_blank">@netflixhelps</a> to other users, assuring them that the subtitle issue was being dealt with.</div><div><br />
</div><div>But you know me, I can't let things go and my favorite question in the world is, "Why, God, WHY?" So I tried to give Netflix a call but apparently every piece of technology I touch turns to sh-... um, crap, and my Captel app wasn't working on my phone. <i>Blergh</i>. So then I turned to <a href="https://www.sprintip.com/index.jsp" target="_blank">Sprint Relay Online</a> to try and make the call and after 10 minutes of registering for an account and blah blah blah, I was finally able to use the online relay service to call Netflix.</div><div><br />
</div><div>The representative I spoke to was polite and professional. I saved a transcript of the conversation and when I asked what was up with the subtitles, the representative said: </div><div><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><br />
</span></div><blockquote class="tr_bq"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;">its a glitch in our system that came up recently it is also been affecting letting people know whether or not a title is available in HD but it is an issue that we are well aware of and we re scrambling to get this fixed as quickly as we can (SOUNDS PLEASANT) ga</span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"> </span></blockquote><div><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><br />
</span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I asked if deaf and hard of hearing customers would be refunded for the days of lost service and was told that:</span></div><div><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><br />
</span></div><blockquote class="tr_bq"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;">thats not something that i have any input on but i can certainly pull up ur account and take a note of that and if they do choose to give out compensation then u would be notified via email ga</span></blockquote><div><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><br />
</span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">I also asked if they were working to get subtitles back on all previously subtitled content or just some of it:</span></div><div><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><br />
</span></div><blockquote class="tr_bq"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;">we will most definitely be working on recoverying all subtitles for the titles that had them previously and wer er also just working on getting subtitles and cc for all titles in general</span></blockquote><div> I wanted to give him a virtual fist bump for that last part alone.</div><div><br />
</div><div>My friend Shanna was kind enough to <a href="http://lipreadingmom.com/2012/01/19/why-lipreading-mom-should-cancel-netflix/" target="_blank">share this story on her own blog</a> as well as on Facebook. I appreciated reading her friends' feedback and personal experience with Netflix. One person in particular, who has been subscribed to Netflix for a few months, noted that the subtitle issue h<span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">ad popp</span>ed up before but rarely lasted longer than about 24 hours. I also learned that Netflix <a href="http://movies.netflix.com/Subtitles" target="_blank">publishes its own page of subtitled content</a>. At the time of this publishing, the list was up to 17 pages (there were only five or six pages this morning), so I hope things will be back to normal soon.</div><div><br />
</div><div>I appreciate that Neflix is aware of the issue and is working to resolve it, and I especially appreciated the courteous and professional conversation I had with the representative. However, I would like to see Netflix provide more consideration if or when this issue pops up again. For instance, a quick informational email, blog post or notice on the website indicating that Netflix is aware of certain issues and is working to resolve them would go a long way in quelling people's (okay, <i>my</i>) frustration. I'm thinking of something like, "We value you as a customer and as such, are working to restore subtitles as quickly as we can. We appreciate your patience as we investigate the matter." That's just gold right there. In my oh-so-humble opinion. ;)</div><div><br />
</div><div>Thanks to all of you who commented on my last post, tweeted or re-tweeted information and blogged about Netflix subtitles! </div>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-30530752155139748052012-01-19T12:45:00.000-06:002012-01-19T12:45:39.038-06:00Netflix subtitles in the WiiI did it. I'm a cop-out. A hypocrite. If my life was <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104990/" target="_blank">Newsies</a>, I would be Jack when he goes to work for Pulitzer. I'm a <i>scabber</i>, you guys!<br />
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<a href="http://lifeinsidethesehearingaids.blogspot.com/2010/01/netflix-is-bane-of-my-existence.html" target="_blank">Remember that rant and rave of yore, where I raged against Netflix for not providing subtitled content?</a> Wellll <a href="http://www.phlixie.com/netflix/" target="_blank">Phlixie</a> convinced me I was missing out and I couldn't resist the siren song of being able to watch <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0805669/" target="_blank">Ugly Betty</a> reruns whenever I wanted and finding out what the <a href="http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/masterpiece/downtonabbey/" target="_blank">Dowton Abbey</a> hoopla was all about, so I buckled. Folded. Sold my soul (This seems to be <a href="http://lifeinsidethesehearingaids.blogspot.com/2012/01/some-say-looooooooove.html" target="_blank">a theme as of late</a>. So far, 2012 is shaping up to be the Year of the Doormat). And in December 2011, the roommate and I signed up for Netlix.<br />
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And let me tell you, it has been a glorious month. I'm reacquainting myself with first loves like <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0285403/" target="_blank">Scrubs</a> and making new friends like <a href="http://abcfamily.go.com/shows/switched-at-birth" target="_blank">Switched at Birth</a>. I've dabbled in the <a href="http://www.imdb.com/find?q=Dr.+Who&s=all" target="_blank">Dr. Who</a> waters and starting thinking in a British accent because I watched so many BBC shows. I love television, don't judge me.<br />
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Wednesday night, though, the honeymoon came to an abrupt halt. Nothing in my queue was subtitled. The subtitle button was gone. I rebooted the Wii. I tried to run a system update but there wasn't one available, so I know the software is fine. I checked the settings. Twice. I tested several shows in my queue by just playing it, thinking they moved the subtitle setting elsewhere. Nothing.<br />
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I checked on it again this morning, hoping it was just a fluke... but still, the subtitles are suspiciously absent.<br />
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Sad face, sad face, sad face.<br />
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Netflix customer service does not provide an email address, so I turned to social media for help. I posted about the issue on Netflix's Facebook wall (thrice!... which they deleted... thrice!) and bombarded Twitter with the problem. So far, my tweets have gone unanswered but on Facebook, I discovered that I wasn't the only person having issues:<br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">To be clear, this is <i>not</i> an issue of "Why doesn't Netflix provide more subtitled content?" (For the record, as of last night, Phlixie listed over 5,000 titles that were available with subtitles. This afternoon, the number had dropped to 2,300. The plot thickens, but I digress.) </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">My concern is that subtitled content <i>was</i> available through the Wii and now it is <i>not</i>. When are the subtitles coming back? Why are they not working for the Wii? Is the issue with Netflix or with Nintendo? Are other platforms affected? Is there anything I can do to bring them back? </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">So far, my attempts to reach out to Netflix have led to dead ends. Will you help me get the word out to Netflix? Post your concerns on their <a href="https://www.facebook.com/netflix" target="_blank">Facebook page</a> (they will delete it but at least you made some noise). Mention <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/netflix" target="_blank">@netflix</a>, <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/Netflixhelps" target="_blank">@netflixhelps</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/neilhunt" target="_blank">@neilhunt</a> in your tweets. Call Netflix at 1-866-501-1604. Write a blog post. Tell your friends. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">And Netflix, if you're listening... help a girl out, huh? Answer some tweets. Check your Facebook. Your customers would be eternally grateful.</div>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-26140607801912208702012-01-08T14:24:00.000-06:002012-01-08T14:24:50.131-06:00Some say looooooooove....<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="301" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/8Yg0zKF6yh4" width="400"></iframe></div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;">(Click <a href="http://youtu.be/C5G3XKsq7Ic" target="_blank">here for a subtitled version</a>)</div><br />
I'm<a href="http://lifeinsidethesehearingaids.blogspot.com/2010/06/rip-eharmony.html" target="_blank"> back on eHarmony</a>. I'm weak, don't judge me. I got suckered in by the free weekend and before I knew it, I had signed up for a three-month membership. Whoops.<br />
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I keep going back and forth, though, over whether to mention my hearing loss on my profile. On one hand, I want to be upfront so that there are no surprises. You know, if someone kept something like that from me until we'd exchanged several emails, I think I would wonder what else they might not be telling me. I don't want to appear deceptive. On the other hand, sharing that kind of information is pretty personal and I'd rather someone got to know me as a person (and me get to know them better) before divulging my hearing loss. Hearing loss is easy to misunderstand and I wouldn't want someone to see "hard of hearing" in my profile and run the opposite direction because they think it is something scary and foreign.<br />
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I also wonder how a relationship works if one person can hear and the other is hard of hearing. Would my friends who are hard of hearing with hearing spouses/significant others chime in here? In my more melodramatic moments, I'm convinced that NO ONE will ever GET me if they are not hard of hearing themselves and in my more mellow moments, I remind myself that I'm a <b>person first</b>, and that personality and heart trump hearing loss... I think?<br />
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Talk to me. What are your thoughts or experiences on being in a relationship when you are hard of hearing?<br />
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I posted this a while ago, but I think it's worth sharing again... I hope it makes you smile!<br />
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<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="233" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/QyB_U9vn6Wk" width="400"></iframe>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-9616215499142383502011-12-10T23:54:00.000-06:002011-12-10T23:54:57.940-06:00Thankful for you(Much of the correspondence that takes place among my church seems to end with the same affection: "Thankful for you." Hence, the title, apropos to this sincere story of appreciation for my church family.)<br />
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Today, I went up to my church to help wrap gifts for Affordable Christmas - an event that gives families in our community an opportunity to purchase Christmas gifts at extremely reduced prices. It's an amazing way to get to know the people who live in the area where the church is and I really enjoyed chatting with the families who came. And somehow wrapping gifts seems so much more fun when it's for someone else! :)<br />
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Before I went up to the church for my shift, though, I was battling anxiety and almost wanted to back out. I knew that the gift wrappers would be in the gallery, an area that tends to render almost everyone hard of hearing on Sunday mornings because it's not the most acoustically sound (ha, see what I did there?) place in the building. In other words, it be loud up in there! I only have one good hearing aid right now while I wait for new ear molds to arrive at my audiologist's office. I can't lipread and wrap presents at the same time. How was I going to engage with the shoppers and wrap their gifts at the same time, unable to filter out the dull roar of background noise?<br />
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But I was convicted that <i>not </i>going would be worse, so I made my way over and asked the gift wrap coordinator if she could pair me with another gift wrapper so that someone would have my back if communication became a problem. She happily teamed me up with another volunteer who graciously answered questions that I missed hearing and helped carry on conversations with the shoppers. While all that was going on, we worked together to wrap gifts. I'm so thankful for those two ladies who were willing to help me be part of the team!<br />
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That led me to reflect on the other ways I'm able to serve my church family. I help our children's ministry most Sundays and there have been a few times where I wondered if I was the best person for the job. Trying to field questions from parents and volunteers, help volunteers troubleshoot the check-in process, interact with kids who haven't learned how to enunciate yet... all in the very same gallery that reaches fever pitch every week. Shouldn't someone with better hearing be doing this? Would I serve my church family better by stepping down and letting someone who is better equipped step up? Am I making Sunday mornings more complicated for other volunteers who have to do their own jobs in addition to helping me communicate?<br />
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But every time I've raised the question with other volunteers or staff, the answer has been a firm "<b>NO</b>." If anything, they ask me what <i>else </i>they can do to make sure that I am able to fulfill my duties every Sunday. They don't let my disability get in the way of my <b>ability </b>to serve! They don't just minister <i>to </i>me and make me the object of their compassion and kindness - though they do that as well! - they equip me to <i><a href="http://lifeinsidethesehearingaids.blogspot.com/2010/10/contributing-with-disability-part-5-ish.html" target="_blank">serve along with them</a></i>. They embrace <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians+12&version=ESV" target="_blank">1 Corinthians 12</a>, especially verses 14-26:<br />
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<blockquote class="tr_bq"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body," that would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear should say, "Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body," that would not make it any less a part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is,<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 0.65em;"><sup class="xref" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: text-top;" value="(<a href="#cen-ESV-28636AD" title="See cross-reference AD">AD</a>)"></sup></span> <b>God arranged the members in the body, each one of them,<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 0.65em;"><sup class="xref" style="font-size: 0.65em; vertical-align: text-top;" value="(<a href="#cen-ESV-28636AE" title="See cross-reference AE">AE</a>)"></sup></span> as he chose.</b> If all were a single member, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.</span> </blockquote><blockquote class="tr_bq">The eye cannot say to the hand, "I have no need of you," nor again the head to the feet, "I have no need of you." On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. <b>But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. </b>If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored,<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 0.65em;"><sup class="xref" style="font-size: 0.65em; font-weight: bold; vertical-align: text-top;" value="(<a href="#cen-ESV-28644AF" title="See cross-reference AF">AF</a>)"></sup></span> all rejoice together.</blockquote><div style="background-color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">Having the right heart and attitude toward someone who lives with a disability is so important for a church that is seeking to love the "weaker" members. Formal ministries and programs and schedules and plans and events can be good ways for a church to connect with those who have a disability, but all of those would fall short without the right heart. I'm grateful to be part of a church that faithfully preaches God's goodness in and sovereignty over the hard things like disability and takes the Bible seriously when it says that <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Galatians+3:28&version=ESV" target="_blank">we are all one in Christ.</a></span></div><div style="background-color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><br />
</span></div><div style="background-color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">So church family, I am indeed <b>thankful for you</b>, and delighted to grow with you - for God's glory and our joy!</span></div>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-859236274723001912011-10-03T21:39:00.000-05:002011-10-03T21:39:43.347-05:00Hearing loss and personality<div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">I'm not even going to try to be all "Oh hey, internet, hey, I missed you, didja miss me?"<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">Because we all know the answer is YES.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">So I went to this party a couple of weeks ago. Almost everyone there was deaf or hard of hearing, so I was all, "Great! Finally, I can go to a party and be able to keep up with everyone!" I had visions of finally discovering my true extroverted self as I flitted from group to group, emerging as the social butterfly I was always meant to be.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">I arrived at the party and dropped off my dish (Pillsbury cookies lovingly sliced by hand and baked - I know, I am out of control here - by yours truly) and chatted with a friend. Then I moved into a room with fewer people and chatted with... TWO friends. Things really got wild when I was making my way to the sink to get some water (after the crowd from the drink station had dispersed, of course) and I was introduced to ONE person en route. Then to top it all off, I joined a larger, chatty group in the kitchen... and listened to their conversation but didn't say a peep.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">It was a pretty wild night.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">Growing up, I always assumed my reluctance to join large crowds or even to try to new things was related to my hearing loss. Communication is difficult, so of course it makes sense to stick to smaller groups. I didn't like surprises because I was terrified of missing information and embarrassing myself. Because that was my experience, I assumed that hearing loss would affect everyone's personality the same way and render all of us insecure introverts.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">But I've met outgoing deaf people who have never met a stranger and fearless hard of hearing friends who swim with jellyfish (I mean, literally swim through a school - gaggle? herd? - of jellyfish... this is not an euphemism for being killed by the mob). I'm so grateful for these friends and acquaintances who remind me that hearing loss is not the end and I can't use it as a crutch to not do things.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">Now, I am not so sure how much hearing loss affects one's personality. I do believe that people who are deaf or hard of hearing might have particular mannerisms or tendencies - like maybe we just notice things more or are good at picking up on non-verbal cues or we avoid noisy situations. Things like that may be a result of hearing loss but those aren't necessarily personality indicators.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">I'm learning that maybe I'm the way I am because...<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><i>I'm the way I am</i>. Maybe large groups wear me out and being alone recharges me because I'm am introvert. I don't speak up much in a group because I like to think things over for a while before sharing. Maybe new situations and change and meeting new people make me nervous just because I am one of those people who takes a long time to adjust to change. And that's perfectly fine. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">What do you think? Is there a relationship between hearing loss and personality? Do people who are deaf or hard of hearing adopt particular habits due to their hearing loss?</span></div>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-49344060661871741352011-07-28T23:09:00.001-05:002011-07-29T08:55:30.164-05:00A bit of a breakDo I even remember how to blog anymore? It has been so long... <i><b>whoa dang</b></i>.<br />
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</div><div>This is pretty much what I have been doing lately:</div><div><br />
</div><div>work work work work sleep work work work pretend to pack work work work NEPHEW!!!</div><div>work work work work a little more eat half a bag of taco-flavored Doritos in one sitting work work</div><div>work work work weddings galore work work work work zzzz......</div><div><br />
</div><div>You get the idea. But - knock on wood - the crazy part is has passed, so hopefully I will be back to blogging more soon!</div><div><br />
</div><div>Also, I am moving next month (nowhere crazy, not far from where I am now) and can I just say that so far, I think my new landlady is AMAZING? Why, you ask? I will tell you why. I told her I would need a fire alarm with a strobe light so that I can be alerted by the flashing light; I can't rely on my hearing aids to let me know if there's an emergency. Now, experience has taught me that when I ask for accommodations, I should do the research myself and provide the other party (landlord, boss, university official, etc) with the information they need to obtain those accommodations. So I told the landlady that I had heard that I could get a fire alarm for free from the fire department but that I had never experienced that myself. I said I would research it and see if I could find out how to get one for free.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Buuuuuuuuuuuuuuut... she emailed me before I had a chance to look into it and said that her friend was engaged to a firefighter and she would ask him about it. And friends, next thing I know, they've ordered the device for me and not only is it a flashing fire alarm, but it comes with an infrared sensor that can go on my bedside table and a vibrating alarm that can be put under the mattress! She went <i>all out</i>!</div><div><br />
</div><div>It was really nice to have this one thing be something that I didn't have to think about. I'm really grateful that she was willing to meet the need and didn't expect me to do all the heavy lifting. Advocating for oneself is hard - and necessary - work, but it's nice when someone eases the burden a little.<br />
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Have you experienced someone advocating for you? What kind of accommodations do you use at home?</div><div><br />
</div><div>Happy weekend!</div>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-1162656388447266082011-07-11T22:22:00.002-05:002011-07-12T09:08:50.272-05:00How to deal with hearing loss on the job<div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">One of the workshops that I went to during the HLAA convention last month was called, "The Art of Telling: How to Tell Your Date/Boss/Friend That You Have Hearing Loss." The gist of the presentation was that it's important to not shy away from revealing your hearing loss because it helps you facilitate communication, which is foundational to any relationship.</span><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">When I have more time, I hope to blog more about this particular workshop because it was</span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">fantastic</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">, but for now, I wanted to talk about how to deal with your hearing loss at work. The speaker made some excellent points, including:<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">1) Those of us with hearing loss should focus on our assets rather than be distracted by what we can't do.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">2) If we are comfortable with our hearing loss, others will be comfortable with it as well.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">3) It's our responsibility to tell our employers what we need in the workplace.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">1) When you're in an interview, never portray your hearing loss in negative terms. Don't give any indication that it will hold your back or hinder your ability to do your job well. Your hearing loss will only limit you if you let it. While it's true that your hearing loss may make you unavailable for certain types of jobs (for instance, I will probably never be a receptionist because that's just too much with the phones or a server in a restaurant because I would not be able to hear everyone's orders in a bustling environment), there are so many more that you</span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">are</span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">well-equipped for. If you're organized or detail-oriented or have an aptitude for technology, say so. If you need to work on your time-management skills or find it difficult to relate to customers, tell your prospective employer that you're working on them. Focus on your job-related strengths and be honest about your weaknesses - but just know that hearing loss is not one of those weaknesses! If you think your hearing loss will be a problem on the job, your prospective employer will think so, too... and probably won't make an offer.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">2) When I was interviewing for my current position, I had a phone interview with the manager of the department. I was using a</span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></span><a href="http://www.captel.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">CapTel</span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="color: windowtext; text-decoration: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">phone and, for those not familiar with the technology, there is a two or three second delay while the captions catch up. Because of that, I made the decision to tell the manager about my hearing loss and explain briefly how the phone worked. Then I moved on with the conversation. It was important to me that I was honest with him about who I was so that there were no surprises when we met in person. I didn't spend too much time on the subject of hearing loss because I wanted to show him that it would not affect my success on the job and I wanted to have plenty of time to share about my time on the campus newspaper, my English degree and the leadership roles I'd taken on in college, things that had far more to do with the position than what kind of phone I was going to need to do the job. I didn't make my hearing loss an issue and as a result, neither did they.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><br />
</span> </span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">3) Generally speaking, if you need any kind of accommodations on the job, it's your responsibility to identify what you need in order to do your job well and then ask for it. I don't remember if my needing a Captel phone came up in my interview or not, but it was a point of discussion within the first few days of working there. I had to explain how the CapTel was different than a TTY and why a CapTel was a better fit, not just for me, but for the position (in this case, my clients needed to be able to call me directly so a TTY was not a viable option). Employers need to be educated about hearing loss just like anyone else. Be patient, explain (</span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">nicely</span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">!) what you need and work with them to find solutions. Advocating for yourself at work by knowing what kind of accommodations you need and asking nicely for them will also help fulfill the other two points - it will show your boss(es) and co-workers that you are comfortable with your hearing loss and that you're not allowing it to deter you from doing your job well.</span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><br />
</span> </span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">What else would you add? What issues come up when you're looking for a job? How do you deal with hearing loss in the workplace after you've landed the job?</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div></span>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-68643814542314089312011-07-07T21:47:00.002-05:002011-07-07T21:47:44.908-05:00To cochlear or not to cochlear<div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">I always figured I would get a <a href="http://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/hearing/coch.asp">cochlear implant</a>... <i>someday</i>. I don't have any special reasoning behind this other than that it just always felt like the natural order of things. I've been operating under the assumption that eventually, I'll lose all my hearing (I've lost most, but not all) and would need a cochlear implant... <i>someday</i>. I never had any time frame for this mysterious <i>someday</i>... it just wasn't <i>right now</i> so I didn't concern myself with the particulars.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">But now, I find myself drawn to the topic with surprising frequency. In two short years, I'll be 30. I don't know why, but getting a cochlear implant always seemed like a very 30s thing to do. Old enough to be sure that it's what I want and young enough to appreciate the benefits, bounce back from the surgery quickly and (knock on wood) handle the rehabilitation process with more ease (in theory, anyway... everyone responds to surgery differently, I know. I'm just sayin'... generally speaking, there are benefits to having this kind of procedure while I'm in my spring chicken stage of life).</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">I'm not sure I could pinpoint any one reason why I think getting one is a good idea. I'm concerned I might want one for the wrong reasons. I'm tempted to think it will make me "more hearing," and thus help me to fit in. But hearing aids and cochlear implants aren't like glasses. When I put my glasses on, my vision is, for all intents and purposes, back to normal. Being deaf or hard of hearing isn't like that, though. Hearing aids, cochlear implants and assistive listening devices can help fill in some of the gaps, but they do not "cure" hearing loss.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">I know this, but still I wonder... would music sound sweeter with a cochlear implant? Could I learn to recognize speech without always having to look at someone? Would having a cochlear implant help me be more aware of my auditory surroundings?</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">On the other hand, I am doing well with my hearing aids. Why rock the boat? Also, getting a cochlear implant is permanent; if for some reason the implantation or activation was unsuccessful or if I decided I just didn't like it, then my understanding is that I couldn't just go back to wearing hearing aids. Finally, I know my hearing aids, how to care for them and what the world sounds like with them. A cochlear implant seems so foreign and I suspect that's where most of my hesitation comes from - a fear of the unknown. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">So I'd really like to hear from others who have a cochlear implant. What prompted you to get one? How do you feel about the results? And if you are deaf or hard of hearing but do not have a cochlear implant - why not? Do you wear hearing aids or use any other assistive listening devices?</div>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-10288147180695453422011-07-06T22:27:00.000-05:002011-07-06T22:27:31.707-05:00I want to help because I want to belongDuring my first semester of living on campus, I was the last person to join the suite. There were a total of six girls sharing <i>one </i>bathroom and no kitchen (I'll let you use your imagination to determine how that worked out. I'll give you a hint: not well). The small suite actually had three bedrooms, with two roommates per room. The chore list rotated among each set of roommates and even though I had only been there for a couple of days, I was eager to pitch in. But my new roommate wouldn't hear of it. "Oh no!" she insisted. "You just got here, so it's not fair to ask you to clean up our messes. I'll take care of it."<br />
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I couldn't explain to her why her well-meaning brush-off bothered me. I didn't know why I, a devout disciple of disarray, was suddenly <i>verrrry </i>concerned with emptying the trash can. I just knew I was frustrated and I vented my feelings to one of our suite-mates, who basically said, "Well, I told her [my roommate] to let you help her clean so you would feel included!" I still don't know how someone who had only known me a few days was able to tell me something about myself that even <i>I</i> didn't know about, but I'm glad she did. I learned something important that day - inclusion takes on many different forms.<br />
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As someone who is hard of hearing, when I complain about not being included, I usually mean that I'm frustrated with being left out of a conversation. I am always trying to position myself strategically so that I can see who is talking. I map out the best place to sit in a room and am learning to do a better job of asking people to clarify when I don't understand something or if I'm not confident I heard them correctly. I ask people to look at me when they talk and occasionally, I've had to had some difficult conversations with friends and roommates when I've been discouraged over being left out. Being able to participate by speaking up and feeling a sense of belonging by being heard <i>are </i>important and, I would guess, often taken for granted by those who can hear. People who are deaf/hard of hearing and people who are hearing need to be aware of this and both parties should take responsibility to ensure inclusive communication for all.<br />
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However, what I learned in college, and what I'm still learning today, is that including others and taking steps to include yourself is just half of the equation. I want to be included so that I can participate. I want to be a part of what is going in, to be in the middle of the action, to feel like I belong. I won't always be able to be part of conversations, so I look for other ways to include myself. One of the ways I do that is to help others. I may not be able to catch every piece of the chatter around the dinner table, but I can help clear the dishes and feel like I contributed something to the evening. I can't always keep up with a group of friends, but I can pitch in by watching their kids or helping them move. I may not be able to hear, but there are a lot of things that I <i>can </i>do. Being hard of hearing doesn't render me useless - there is still a lot that I can and want to contribute. So sometimes, when I ask someone, "Can I help you with anything?" what I might really mean is, "Is there anything I can do so that I can feel like I'm part of the group?" (That's not to say that I want someone to just make up a task to make me feel better about myself - I would rather do something that is either genuinely helpful or nothing at all.)<br />
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You don't have to be hard of hearing to understand the desire to fit in or to belong. Can you think of a time when you wanted to participate but felt like you couldn't?<br />
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And if you are hard of hearing (or know someone who is), do you find yourself offering to help so that you can feel like you are part of the group? Or is that just me?Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-45846012457352647112011-07-04T22:28:00.000-05:002011-07-04T22:28:04.878-05:00My Song (and a crash course in BSL)<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">When I was in college, I had to read a short story whose title I've forgotten already. It was about an old lady who lived in an antebellum mansion and was obsessed with the past and the Civil War (at least I think it was the Civil War. I may be making that up) even though it was after the turn of the century. During the class discussion over the story, I learned a new word - anachronism. The main character was so closely associated with the time period that she was obsessed with that it made her seem out of place in her current setting. She didn't "belong" in the present.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">Taking some liberties with the definition, this video reminds me of the same theme. Not really fitting in any one particular world, but trying to find a way to carry on regardless. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">Anyway, step away from that King of Queens episode that you've seen 729 times and watch this instead.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">Have you ever felt like you didn't quite fit in? How did you respond?</span></span>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-22951382753076672052011-06-30T22:21:00.000-05:002011-06-30T22:21:34.381-05:00SuperpowersWARNING: NERD ALERT IN EFFECT FOR THE REMAINDER OF THIS POST. PLEASE PROCEED WITH CAUTION.<br />
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I shared two meals today with two separate groups of people. And I realized that good Lord Almighty, my eyes never rested. <b><i>Ever</i></b>. I was looking at my food, glancing around the table to see if anyone was speaking, double-, triple- and quadruple-checking to make sure no one was talking and that it was okay to say something; visually roaming the table to figure out <i>who </i>was talking and <i>what </i>they were talking about and checking, re-checking and re-re-checking to see if anyone was talking to me and if I needed to react to anything (laugh when everyone else laughed, etc).<br />
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I've heard that when you lose one sense, the others overcompensate. I've always been more sensitive to smell than the rest of my family and I'm pretty particular about being touched. Whether that has anything to do with hearing loss or my own personal quirks remains to be seen, of course, but come jump to conclusions with me, will you?<br />
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As it turns out, there could actually be a parallel between hearing loss and enhanced visual perception. One of my Facebook friends <a href="http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/health/Gallaudet_Finds_Deaf_People_Don_t_See_Better__They_See_Differently-124637764.html">posted this article</a> about how deaf and hard of hearing people actually see differently than hearing people - not better, just differently.<br />
<blockquote><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">"And for people who are deaf, it's been discovered that visual attention is heightened in their peripheral vision. A hearing person has 360 degrees of perception, since your brain can locate objects based on sounds. But those who are deaf, Allen says, lose 180 degrees of that perception.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">So researchers think the deprived auditory areas of the brain reorganize to better process visual information. As a result, people are more sensitive to moving stimuli in their periphery, like a car speeding toward them in the street."</span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div></blockquote>Do you know what this sounds like to me? SUPERPOWERS, awww yeah! How did I get from visual perception to superpowers, you might be asking. That would be an excellent question but unless you, too, have grown up on a media diet of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/X-Men_(film_series)">X-Men</a> (That last movie really spoke to me. And by "movie," I mean James McAvoy) and <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0813715/">Heroes</a>, I'm afraid my reasoning would be lost on you anyway.<br />
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I need to know what's going on around me at all times, so I am constantly looking and scanning and glancing and gazing and searching... these powers can be used for both good and evil. You definitely want me on your team if we're playing hide-and-seek but I'm also easily distracted when the smallest motion enters my peripheral vision. I'm always aware of my surroundings but when I'm talking to someone, I tend to look around them but not <i>at </i>them. I need to be more disciplined about that - with great power comes great responsibility, you know.<br />
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So there we are. I'm not just hard of hearing... I'm visually-enhanced! ;) Think there's room for one more at Professor Xavier's School for Gifted Youngsters?<br />
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</div><div>I never liked to sign at home, though, and I wish I could tell you why that is, but I haven't got a clue. I was fine with it at school but insecure signing at home. Maybe because at school, I was one of several deaf/hard of hearing students but at home, I was the only one with hearing loss. Was signing at home an uncomfortable reminder that I was "different"? </div><div><br />
</div><div>My parents and brothers do know a little bit - in typical BOY fashion, my brothers delight in signing "turtle" and "poop" over and over and over again. <i>Eye. Roll.</i> They all know how to sign the alphabet and that comes in handy when I just can't understand something they've repeated several times. Sometimes just signing the first letter of the word they're trying to say makes something click and I'll figure out that, <i>doh</i>, they were saying "mother" and not "brother."</div><div><br />
</div><div>But for the most part, I don't sign with my family or hearing friends, just with my deaf and hard of hearing friends. When I was growing up, my interpreters used CASE with me - Conceptually Accurate Signed English (others may know it as PSE), which uses ASL (American Sign Language) vocabulary but English word order and grammar. Many people don't know that ASL is actually considered a foreign language with its own grammar and syntax. I can understand ASL but I wouldn't say that I'm fluent in signing it myself. After a few years of being out of touch with the deaf and hard of hearing community, my signing grew rusty. Now, though, I feel like I'm getting my fingers back, though I'm not quite sure what brand of sign language I'd say I use. It feels more like a cross between CASE and SEE (Signing Exact English), which I lovingly refer to as LSL - Lucy Sign Language. ;) I'm thankful that my deaf and hard of hearing friends are patient with me as I re-learn everything!</div><div><br />
</div><div>Sometimes I wonder if I should be encouraging my hearing friends and family to learn a few more signs. What if my hearing loss progresses? How will we communicate? And not that I'm ancient by any means, but the older I get, I'm finding that I have less patience to keep up with groups of hearing people... maybe if I taught my close friends and family to be more fluent, our conversations would flow a little more smoothly. Plus, I watch a lot of small children and just welcomed a sweet little nephew into the world over the weekend. Children are hard for me to understand and I'd like to find a fun and easy way to teach them to sign so we can still communicate and enjoy each other.</div><div><br />
</div><div>How about you? Is sign language a part of your life? </div>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-22618288437473209102011-06-23T22:31:00.000-05:002011-06-23T22:31:46.241-05:00Post-convention withdrawalsGetting on the plane to come back home after the HLAA Convention was hard. Not because <a href="http://lifeinsidethesehearingaids.blogspot.com/2011/06/please-dont-tell-me-its-not-important.html">I couldn't understand the airline employee</a>. Not because I was worried about traveling alone or trying to avoid the reality of going back to a routine come Monday. Not even because I loved DC so much that my inner history nerd could probably pack up and move there if given the chance. <br />
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No, coming home was hard because it meant leaving behind 1,200 people who get hearing loss. No, I didn't get to know each and every one of them. But for a few brief days, I didn't have to explain myself to anyone. When I asked someone to repeat themselves, no one rolled their eyes or sighed or looked startled - repeating is a natural part of the conversation among the deaf and hard of hearing. Communicating was comfortable and I never felt excluded from the conversation. <br />
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Don't get me wrong. Many of my friends and all of my family can hear. I love them dearly and I know the feeling is mutual. I appreciate it when they are sensitive to my hearing loss and work to include me in their activities. They are thoughtful and understand that sometimes I need a sensory break. They know to sit where I can see them and to speak clearly but not over-enunciate. I treasure these labors of love, though I know many of my friends and family would take issue with me calling it a "labor." "It's really not," they'll insist, and for that, I am grateful.<br />
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But as well-meaning and kind as my hearing friends and family are, there is just something that <i>clicks </i>more when I am with other deaf and hard of hearing people. It was a welcome break to be with other people who knew exactly what I meant and how I felt when I relayed the story of that one time my audiologist turned his back to me while he talked. We laughed together at the irony that even among other deaf and hard of hearing people, we still had to ask what was going on and who said what. We discussed hearing aid brands the way other people might discuss their favorite cars. We have our own vocabulary - <i>audiogram, cochlear implants, CapTel</i> and <i>looping </i>are probably not part of a typical lexicon. <br />
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Sometimes, when I am in a group of hearing people, who are all talking and my eyes are darting around the room, trying to figure out who is talking and what they are talking about and then trying to track that conversation as it flies from mouth to mouth... sometimes, I feel incapable. Like I am not smart. Like I don't have anything to contribute. I understand that may be my own faulty perception. Yes, there are strategies I can employ to maximize my group experience. No, I don't use them as often as I should. Yes, this is an exhausting lifestyle sometimes!<br />
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I came home to a Facebook message from one of my new friends that I had met at the convention."I eavesdropped a little on a conversation you were having," he explained. "I liked what you had to say." And I realized why leaving DC was so hard. Because I felt smart and capable, like I had something to say and to contribute. For lack of a better term, I felt more like a <i>person</i>.<br />
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Being hard of hearing in a hearing world is not the worst thing to happen to me. Not by a long shot. But I do often struggle with feeling like I live on the outside of things, always on the edge of everyone else's experiences. Helen Keller said, "Blindness separates us from things but deafness separates us from people." That separation is hard to bear sometimes, and that's why being around other deaf and hard of hearing people is a relief: I don't have to work so hard to understand and be understood. We know how to communicate so that everyone is included. <br />
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I'm glad I have a growing community of deaf and hard of hearing friends here at home, but I'm excited to make new friends across the country, too!<br />
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Next year in Rhode Island - who's with me?!Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-26024170724918986322011-06-22T21:25:00.000-05:002011-06-22T21:25:38.079-05:00Please don't tell me it's not importantI searched the airline employee's face in frustration. She had just made an announcement about my flight. At least I think she did. I heard "12 minutes" but that was about it; her mouth was obscured by the loudpseaker she was using to get her point across. I couldn't read her lips and I didn't understand what she was saying. I stole a quick glance around and noted that none of the other passengers waiting at the gate seemed alarmed by her message, so I was assured that there was no cause for concern.<br />
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But still. I had to solve the mystery of the 12 minutes because I like to know things. I'm nosy like that. So I asked the person next me. I explained that I was hard of hearing but I didn't catch the announcement. Could he please tell me what it said? He was kind to oblige me and as it turned out, we would be leaving in 12 minutes (I know, <i>riveting </i>solution, you can rest easy now). But then he said, "It wasn't anything important."<br />
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I smiled and thanked him but inwardly, I was groaning. <i>It may not have been important to you,</i> I grumbled on the inside, <i>but it might have been to me!</i><br />
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I know, I know. In the grand scheme of things, no, it wasn't that important. I could have easily deduced what the 12 minutes were about and knowing that there wasn't an emergency, I could have boarded the plane in peace. And it's very likely that the gentleman who told me it wasn't important was just trying to assure me that there wasn't anything crazy going on.<br />
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Growing up, though, "It's not important" were three difficult words to swallow. "What did he say?" I'd ask a friend, because I so desperately wanted to know what everyone else knew, to fit in, to belong. "It's not important," was a common reply, because it would have taken too long to repeat, maybe. Or it was too complicated to explain. Maybe it really <i>wasn't</i> important.<br />
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The thing is, though, we don't get to decide what information matters to someone else. We can't assume that because we find one piece of information useless that someone else will feel the same way about it. We don't know what's going on in someone else's life or plans or day - maybe they really do need that information, however inconsequential it seems to us. It's kind of like a detective show... we've probably all seen an episode of CSI/Law and Order/NYPD Blue/(insert favorite cop show here) where a rookie cop overlooks an important piece of evidence that would have sent the bad guy right to jail. He didn't speak up because he thought it didn't matter, but if he had just passed his information on, the case would have closed long ago.<br />
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Are you with me? When it comes to hearing loss, those of you who can hear would be doing those of us who cannot a huge favor if you just pass the information on and let us decide for ourselves how to use it. When others decide whether something is important or not, sometimes I feel as if they're really saying that I'm not intelligent enough to make my own decisions - and that is harder to deal with than the hearing loss itself.Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-39556655886079380662011-06-21T22:03:00.000-05:002011-06-21T22:03:29.381-05:00There and back againSoooooooooo..... apparently I was making things up when I said I was done with this blog. <br />
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These are the facts of the case (and they are undisputed. (Not really, but name that movie!)):<br />
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<b>Hearing loss is always on my mind.</b> Might as well write about it. <br />
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I stopped blogging here in January. Yet <b>this blog still gets hits</b> and my stats tell me that people want to know about "how to live with hearing loss," "hearing aids" and "captions." <br />
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I went to Washington, D.C. last week for the Hearing Loss Association of America's national convention. Maybe someday, I'll blog about my experience but one of the things I came away with is that <b>there is still work to be done</b>. I met a couple of people who are affiliated with the <a href="http://idainstitute.com/">Ida Institute</a>, which aims to help audiologists better understand the psychological and social impact of hearing loss. This reminded me the importance of educating others about hearing loss - not just the medical aspect of it, but how it affects relationships, communication and emotional health. There were also several hearing spouses or family members at the convention - even those who do not personally live with hearing loss probably know someone who does. Hearing loss affects <i>everyone</i>.<br />
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Another thought I took away from the convention was the importance of <b>staying connected</b>. I was starting to build relationships in the online hearing loss community and sadly, I did not do a good job of maintaining those when I switched blogs. I'd like to get back into that again.<br />
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Finally, <b>my personal burden is for churches to be accessible to the deaf and hard of hearing</b>, so I will probably be writing a lot about that as well. This is <i>not</i> code for, "I'm going to convert you" or "Expect a lot of fire-and-brimstone speeches." I'm simply interested in figuring out how church can be accessible to everyone, including those of us with hearing loss. I imagine that many of the questions I wrestle with or issues that crop up won't be that different from trying to, say, procure CART for a college class or ask your boss for an amplified phone at work. So even if you're not the church-going type, I hope we can still find some common ground as we consider what it's like to be hard of hearing in a hearing world.Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-7986599228629384952011-01-01T09:48:00.003-06:002011-01-01T10:02:48.397-06:00So long, farewell...Happy New Year, friends!<br /><br />Like I said, the new year brings a new blog for me.<br /><br />Before we move to the new place, I just wanted to say thanks. Sometimes blogging makes me feel vain - or at least I worry that other people will think I'm vain! ;) But the thing is that just like an artist creates something for other people to enjoy, so a writer writes for other people to read. So thank you for reading... I truly appreciate it.<br /><br />Hope to see you on the other side! You can now find me at...<br /><br /><a href="http://tolivequietly.blogspot.com/">To Live Quietly</a><br /><br /><br />... auf Wiedersehen, adieu!Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-18770805108096665252010-12-31T11:26:00.003-06:002010-12-31T11:35:52.521-06:00Ch-ch-ch-changesHappy New Year's Eve, friends! What are you doing today? I have a stack of movies a mile high. It is going to be glorious. Also, I figured out how to make my own cherry limeades, so Jesus can come back now. My life is complete.<br /><br />Oh guess what, guess what, guess what??? Big changes are a-brewin' for this here blog. And by changes, I mean... I STARTED A NEW BLOG. BOO-YAH. I did this because, well, I kind of painted myself into a corner with my blog title, didn't I? I feel like I have to always write about hearing loss and while I'm always happy to share my experiences or think out loud about some issue related to it, it gets old, y'know? Well, not old, I guess, but considering I want to be a more deliberate blogger and at least aim for writing 3x/week, I think it would get old. <br /><br />So I've made a broader blog. No painted corners this time. Just a place where I can blather incessantly about that one time I did something with someone somewhere or how I'm pretending to be Martha Stewart. It will be grand.<br /><br />What this means is:<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">I will leave this blog up, but I won't be writing in it anymore.</span> I hope it's been a good place for people new to hearing loss to learn a little bit more about what it means to be hard of hearing. That was the goal when I started anyway. To share a little bit more of my perspective with my friends and family and also to network with people who also live with hearing loss (either themselves or through a loved one).<br /><br />I really would love to see you at my new place, so if you're so inclined, you'll need to <span style="font-weight:bold;">update your subscriptions</span> (if you subscribe) and following and google reading and bookmarking and all that jazz.<br /><br />I will <span style="font-weight:bold;">post the new link tomorrow</span> so check back for updates!<br /><br />Happy New Year's Eve, my friends. I hope it is a delightful day for each and every one of you!Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-22400934477202178552010-12-27T20:23:00.008-06:002010-12-27T21:13:39.120-06:00Whirled peasI did approximately 8.26 billion hours of shopping last week. Which is quite the feat coming from someone who considers ONE measly hour of shopping to be one hour too many.<br /><br />I'm a serious shopper. When I do venture out to spend money, I treat it like a marathon. I mentally map out the most effect route to take through the store - the one that gets me in and out and back home in my pj's in the shortest amount of time possible.<br /><br />But of course, other people do not know this. And they dawdle. And their kids dawdle. And they use their shopping carts to block whole aisles. They linger awkwardly in that one section out of the whole entire store that I need to grab something from. <br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">Rude</span>. <br /><br />You know what is missing from America's stores?<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhw7ctzJJRNe_q2apx6_2zz-GVfxy_FwCUZG3H3-DU7wsoZnsRTk5r-6KNg2BRGhWioe0mnyZiVVcFeM5GkR8Q2L7k5i9mpHglCSmtEOcV592wXQ_0nOTQZ6UXY5jUCUQHAodjiraK7Bt0/s1600/walkway.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhw7ctzJJRNe_q2apx6_2zz-GVfxy_FwCUZG3H3-DU7wsoZnsRTk5r-6KNg2BRGhWioe0mnyZiVVcFeM5GkR8Q2L7k5i9mpHglCSmtEOcV592wXQ_0nOTQZ6UXY5jUCUQHAodjiraK7Bt0/s320/walkway.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5555555172722077682" /></a><br /><br />Walkways. Walkways are the answer. Forget airports. Put these babies into Targets across the nation and you will achieve world peace. Slow people can jump on them if they want, but as long as they keep to the right so I can breeze past them, there will be peace in all the land.<br /><br />And also? I love walkways. It's true. I went to Las Vegas this fall to visit my cousin. One of my favorite parts was hopping on the walkway in the airport. Because the Las Vegas airport looks like this:<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOyhZcgAXCuRdt5k66SnZYhTi0EWLeec2i98tvqolRvR4CyMv-Q82DoyDAfbCfHE7l6PaFQODxGX2yT10LMvcLyPPC-LITpXaPin6NMQBBQj3r8CGL3-mpARRIkeFTaaFRgUvfxZ8VC8Y/s1600/North-Las-Vegas-Airport.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 238px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOyhZcgAXCuRdt5k66SnZYhTi0EWLeec2i98tvqolRvR4CyMv-Q82DoyDAfbCfHE7l6PaFQODxGX2yT10LMvcLyPPC-LITpXaPin6NMQBBQj3r8CGL3-mpARRIkeFTaaFRgUvfxZ8VC8Y/s320/North-Las-Vegas-Airport.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5555556590353969442" /></a><br /><br />I had to walk something like 15 miles to get from my gate to the baggage claim. Those walkways sure came in handy.<br /><br />In contrast, my airport looks more like this:<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoZ5kze60cmDx1hQ0CX5CL1KSFr96NEOlUUTA0XrfU76z2XAwdQuEI0HWU5apVOX8v5yxiOEkxrhyphenhyphen68EhQ6F8He0MoxHoQM_iQWeR8EPuwT4DRhfxxS4kSSBOT0cadYf3a7z_WHJ_G1uA/s1600/Sahara01.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoZ5kze60cmDx1hQ0CX5CL1KSFr96NEOlUUTA0XrfU76z2XAwdQuEI0HWU5apVOX8v5yxiOEkxrhyphenhyphen68EhQ6F8He0MoxHoQM_iQWeR8EPuwT4DRhfxxS4kSSBOT0cadYf3a7z_WHJ_G1uA/s320/Sahara01.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5555556877167901058" /></a><br /><br />If you land at my airport and if for some bizarre reason, it's your final destination, then I can guarantee you that when you leave your gate, your baggage claim will be right around the corner. No walkways. It's a sad airport. <br /><br />I don't really know how I got on this topic. My thought process is a little convoluted. Also, on Christmas Eve, I dreamed that I lived next door to a vampire. But then I also spent Christmas Day curled up in my dad's big chair, getting high on cough suppressant and ibuprofen. I also watched <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1325004/">Eclipse </a> last night. I don't think I can blame that one on a cold.<br /><br />I think coming up with an ending is one of the most awkward parts of writing. Especially blogging. <br /><br />Love,<br />LucyLucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-52516346830567019632010-12-17T11:04:00.002-06:002010-12-17T11:06:23.146-06:00The best way to spread Christmas cheer...... or, How Many Pop Culture Christmas References Can I Make In One Post?<br /><br />Am I the only one not really feeling the holiday spirit this year? Maybe my heart is two sizes too small. <br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhp2sCWZzwgukbNuS1smR_FnH2T0QOSr-QkoQNcN-QXQsNOoP43EX_eCMbatvhEtR_K5SuwbG26gI-sZBgLuaGkLDxwRalTk5DnY-3i_qeFWByJP0L2c2VvaYRjhJs09jAAZwAbWvdpaEY/s1600/images.jpeg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 206px; height: 245px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhp2sCWZzwgukbNuS1smR_FnH2T0QOSr-QkoQNcN-QXQsNOoP43EX_eCMbatvhEtR_K5SuwbG26gI-sZBgLuaGkLDxwRalTk5DnY-3i_qeFWByJP0L2c2VvaYRjhJs09jAAZwAbWvdpaEY/s320/images.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5551676184678065906" /></a><br /><br />Perhaps I'm a cotton-headed ninny-muuggins.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgnm3GHDRZFn3-Qws9aJr0fq_7H0sHMjSGIbLZWUZyDoIoAmm-eYSQo2s2p5dhTVhWdtnB2il3K0gxyZ_ymrMWVbC4hGxUlG6-gpZU2e3XcTWmjGQGYTIx3xj8mTAIQ80HUn74NpCV9Yy0/s1600/elf.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgnm3GHDRZFn3-Qws9aJr0fq_7H0sHMjSGIbLZWUZyDoIoAmm-eYSQo2s2p5dhTVhWdtnB2il3K0gxyZ_ymrMWVbC4hGxUlG6-gpZU2e3XcTWmjGQGYTIx3xj8mTAIQ80HUn74NpCV9Yy0/s320/elf.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5551678343719964226" /></a><br /><br />Or maybe because my Christmas tree - if you really want to call it that - looks more like Charlie Brown's<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWdR915auyk46ZKy-7-fRRc97YQrnjGWnLloHWZIh5ktNrhwCR30xTt8t7VrI3L553jRbPeVtCKAO3lQCNeFm0G24XAZ3Qj0igOoJR88cq4YE2GdggxPrF4mYIcqtBw6TNILD9sHkIM40/s1600/images-1.jpeg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 283px; height: 178px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWdR915auyk46ZKy-7-fRRc97YQrnjGWnLloHWZIh5ktNrhwCR30xTt8t7VrI3L553jRbPeVtCKAO3lQCNeFm0G24XAZ3Qj0igOoJR88cq4YE2GdggxPrF4mYIcqtBw6TNILD9sHkIM40/s320/images-1.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5551676306636922402" /></a><br /><br />than Martha Stewart's <br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdgcV5A8NaZYoAlQoBpb9pS7sCb5jCga6vlFxKhJIM-sFwHApytp71TJcHOHlv_KiJO6pqNBmuXV-nI9oPGYl_GaZ9DwB5W15nOrQb4-BgowA8YLPwXkrOh7OK76kzZzFKzjlGHy_HTBQ/s1600/martha+stewart+christmas+tree+3.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 262px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdgcV5A8NaZYoAlQoBpb9pS7sCb5jCga6vlFxKhJIM-sFwHApytp71TJcHOHlv_KiJO6pqNBmuXV-nI9oPGYl_GaZ9DwB5W15nOrQb4-BgowA8YLPwXkrOh7OK76kzZzFKzjlGHy_HTBQ/s320/martha+stewart+christmas+tree+3.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5551676452747515122" /></a><br /><br />(not that I've ever had a tree that looked like Martha's, but... well, let me have my dreams). Or the fact that I've left most of my Christmas decor in boxes because it just seems like too much trouble to decorate my tiny little apartment. And yes, I know that Christmas is about more than trees and presents and decorations. But <span style="font-style:italic;">you</span> try getting in the spirit without ornaments and lights, mmmkay?<br /><br />I <span style="font-style:italic;">know</span>. I have such a hard life. First-world problems and all.<br /><br />But while we're talking about Christmas, let's talk about the main character: Santa (Ha! Thought I was gonna go all holy on you and say Jesus, didn'tcha? I'm sneaky like that). I have a confession to make. I love Santa. It's true. Now, I am not going to go all Brittany-from-Glee on you and tell you that I still <span style="font-style:italic;">believe</span> in Santa. Actually, I don't remember ever believing in Santa. My parents were a little late to the party on that one and I am pretty sure I remember them trying to convince my enlightened and far-too-old-for-this seven year old self that Santa had left gifts for me. I was all, <span style="font-style:italic;">psh, puh-leez. I am too smart for this stuff. Fat man + chimney = bwahahahaha</span>.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvVS4zCDDYrwQHlRmm4ngFJK-1NquTce5doEpq7vPqzOHdOWWt27K1sOq4hOz_JZ129kFcMD7vG44vp4-I1C9PfMoQVVBSKFe8N1oSzwpCQ9VOGY_06NTPQ6nJTy07Rh-Bdyk8GZk_S9o/s1600/santaclaus.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 190px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvVS4zCDDYrwQHlRmm4ngFJK-1NquTce5doEpq7vPqzOHdOWWt27K1sOq4hOz_JZ129kFcMD7vG44vp4-I1C9PfMoQVVBSKFe8N1oSzwpCQ9VOGY_06NTPQ6nJTy07Rh-Bdyk8GZk_S9o/s320/santaclaus.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5551677112249764642" /></a><br /><br />But I love Santa movies and elves and sleigh rides and the North Pole and smiling. Smiling's my favorite. There's just a feel-good charm about the whole thing. It's adorable and magical and there's plenty of room for imagination to run amok. And you know what? I've decided I'm a big believer in imagination. It's good for the soul. A little creativity never hurt anyone. We were wired to create, to wonder and to be thrilled by things. Let's run with that a little more, mmmkay? And Christmas is the most wonderful, wonderful, wonderful, wonderful time of the year to do that.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPKTz7FqR9owO7AYzi_JD9mq8871v5xd47k7Om7y6I_xvbhNriTJX1Z-jHm8lIji3_ISr7eUZ2KG_mm_Sud4TJXOJ_VpWc-G5U7XCulF7MZMUUP9jTygoVgmzRVQs55OSvG7f4PMUQRo8/s1600/images-3.jpeg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 216px; height: 216px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPKTz7FqR9owO7AYzi_JD9mq8871v5xd47k7Om7y6I_xvbhNriTJX1Z-jHm8lIji3_ISr7eUZ2KG_mm_Sud4TJXOJ_VpWc-G5U7XCulF7MZMUUP9jTygoVgmzRVQs55OSvG7f4PMUQRo8/s320/images-3.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5551679847918636434" /></a><br /><br />Now I have a few friends who are parents or about to be parents who are probably thinking about how to handle the Santa thing with their kids and to tell you the truth, I might feel differently about Santa if I was a mom. I'm not wild about letting my (fake) kid sit on a stranger's lap, tell him what they want for Christmas and then expect him to deliver on that. I don't know that I'd let them write letters addressed to the North Pole. I would definitely be emphasizing Christ in Christmas (I'm all holy like that, you know), but I also think that I would happily read them "'Twas the Night Before Christmas" and we would watch "Elf" every. single. day. between Thanksgiving and Christmas.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhk2foxv8X1RSR6zpLDTT-M1vS4Qm4TubmfLxnvqTlWBccuBAHKbVxpyfXjhu4AaLjvkN4wkMFfwAnRy7qASsGcs8KxRqELUFK5F06v0wfXCJdRSX-ISqEwWuXSDqE5pzwN1IrgI0ZDBBw/s1600/images-2.jpeg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 259px; height: 194px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhk2foxv8X1RSR6zpLDTT-M1vS4Qm4TubmfLxnvqTlWBccuBAHKbVxpyfXjhu4AaLjvkN4wkMFfwAnRy7qASsGcs8KxRqELUFK5F06v0wfXCJdRSX-ISqEwWuXSDqE5pzwN1IrgI0ZDBBw/s320/images-2.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5551679192466130466" /></a><br /><br />It's a cute story, really. A jolly old elf, flying reindeer, a magical sleigh with a sack bulging with presents. the naughty and nice list and a toy workshop. Adorable. Some people like wizards and Hogwarts and Narnia and lions and hobbits and rings and glittery vampires and russet werewolves (I mean really, people. Go back and read "New Moon" and count how many times the word "russet" is used to describe Jacob. Get a thesaurus, Stephanie Meyer. And with that, now you know one of my dirty little secrets. I read the whole freakin' series). I happen to like Santa. It's fantasy and whimsical and just plain fun.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPSGOQFWiTP-Pp3PTFdkTQXe0gKJfANEWA2bVkV7aJTldiluPCA8U_qpcS33_UUMDkisNJ5K23FsLtXI9xZU3atGoUwcdWHQcXsjY4Yw3zug2bdTntxnfLZ36V2guRXNP9J1R5AxmIeeA/s1600/santa_2.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 250px; height: 248px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPSGOQFWiTP-Pp3PTFdkTQXe0gKJfANEWA2bVkV7aJTldiluPCA8U_qpcS33_UUMDkisNJ5K23FsLtXI9xZU3atGoUwcdWHQcXsjY4Yw3zug2bdTntxnfLZ36V2guRXNP9J1R5AxmIeeA/s320/santa_2.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5551682512641367266" /></a><br /><br />So. There. <br /><br />What puts <span style="font-style:italic;">you</span> in the holiday spirit?Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-8457196851168670252010-12-12T22:14:00.004-06:002010-12-12T23:19:10.310-06:00When knowing I'm yucky makes me happy<span style="font-style:italic;"><span style="font-weight:bold;">You. Guys.</span></span> It is 10 degrees. For realz. And they're saying mean things during the weather segments, like "wind chill" and "below zero" and "frostbite." <span style="font-style:italic;">Rude</span>.<br /><br />Didja miss me, internets? (I know, I'm vain. It's part of my charm.) If I did my math right (and that's always kind of a question mark), this is my 100th post! Bow chicka bow wow!<br /><br />Anywhozzle, I've been feeling a little scattered lately. My apartment is a mess because I'm never here to clean it up and when I am home, I just want to watch reruns of How I Met Your Mother. I've got work, cavities, people, shopping, parties, crafts, hearing aids and "who am I/why am I here/ohmygawsh I'm having an identity crisis" to think too much about. It's <span style="font-style:italic;">so </span>fun.<br /><br />But when I get like that, all distracted and frustrated and annoyed, I start thinking that I can handle things on my own and that I am, in fact, all of that and a bag of chips (I know, I am so hip with the slang, I can barely handle it).<br /><br />But today at church, our pastor was, as always (and in a good way), hammering home the point that there is something wrong with all of us, we're more ruined and awful and messed up and broken than we can ever dare imagine, and that Jesus is our only hope and came to fill our greatest need - our need for a Savior to save us from ourselves.<br /><br />And all I could think was, "How come knowing how broken I am is the only thing that makes me feel complete?"<br /><br />So funny how that works. Knowing who I really am - a mess - is actually the thing that makes me the most settled. Because the more aware I am of myself, the more I recognize my need for a Savior. And knowing the depth and desperation of that need causes me to treasure Jesus even more and myself even less.<br /><br />Which, let's face it, is hard to do. We're selfish people. We think the world is about us. We're here to further our own agendas, meet our deadlines, make the best decisions for our lives and basically, do what we have to do to feel good. And when God says to us, "That's not really the way to happiness," we don't really believe Him, because His idea of joy and contentment is so radically different from our own.<br /><br />But it's better. Harder and messier and raw, but better.<br /><br />One of my pastors tweeted not long ago: "My parenting of my (young kids) is currently focused on 2 themes: You're not in control and you are deeply loved."<br /><br />Which I think is a pretty good thing for all of us to know. We're not in control. We are broken, messy and falling apart - and there's nothing we can do about it. We can't make ourselves right and we don't have it all together. <span style="font-style:italic;"><span style="font-weight:bold;">But</span>.</span> We are deeply loved by a Savior from whom we have received grace upon grace. God, who does not merely offer a solution to our problem, but who Himself <span style="font-style:italic;">is </span>the Solution to our problem, loves us lavishly.<br /><br />Which makes me feel pretty small, and God pretty big, which is exactly as it should be.Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-70634909587308908142010-11-29T08:32:00.002-06:002010-11-29T09:51:41.547-06:00Big Teeth and CloudsYou know that little <a href="http://lifeinsidethesehearingaids.blogspot.com/2010/11/stalking-for-zoey_08.html">blog stalking problem</a> I have?<br /><br />It really does pay off sometimes. I don't even remember how I stumbled upon <a href="http://www.bigteethandclouds.com/">Joey's blog</a>, but I can almost guarantee there were stalking hijinks involved.<br /><br />Joey's daughter, Julia, has mild/moderate hearing loss and I've loved learning about hearing loss from the parents' perspective. I've only ever approached my hearing loss from my experience, but it's something that affects the whole family. <br /><br />Every month, Joey features a deaf or hard of hearing adult and this month was my turn! Head on over to her blog and read the (<span style="font-style:italic;">very. long</span>. (oops)) <a href="http://www.bigteethandclouds.com/2010/11/hearing-loss-profile-lucy.html">post I wrote</a>. Thanks for featuring me, Joey!<br /><br />Happy Monday, friends!Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-24883033696148179552010-11-26T17:29:00.010-06:002010-11-26T21:38:05.359-06:00EntitlementHappy Post-Thanksgiving!<br /><br />Here's a math problem for you. All I did was make <span style="font-style:italic;">one </span>batch of mashed potatoes, yet when all was said and done, I had four giant bowls soaking in sudsy water to get all of the potato-ness off of them, approximately 9,000 utensils scattered in the sink and took out two bags of trash in the last six hours. <br /><br />How does that happen? If Rachael Ray or Martha Stewart ever need a replacement... don't call me.<br /><br />But the <a href="http://thepioneerwoman.com/cooking/2007/11/delicious_creamy_mashed_potatoes/">potatoes</a>... oh. my. word. They almost didn't make it to my aunt's for Thanksgiving because I may or may not have kept sneaking tastes. They are full of bad things. Heavy cream. Buttttah. Cream cheese. Don't look at me like that. It was a holiday. Go with it. <br /><br />Annnnnyway, Thanksgiving. I feel like I won't be a good American unless I list all the things I'm thankful for, just like everyone else is doing. But that seems so... so... routine. Don't get me wrong, I am thankful for a lot of things. I understand the value of a grateful heart. But I'm wondering if I really know what thankfulness means. <br /><br />I came across this <a href="http://www.skywriting.net/inspirational/messages/thanksgiving_prayer.html">Thanksgiving poem</a> last week that just rubbed me the wrong way. It starts out like this:<br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">Even though I clutch my blanket and growl when the alarm rings, thank<br />You, Lord, that I can hear. There are many who are deaf.<br /><br />Even though I keep my eyes closed against the morning light as long<br />as possible, thank You, Lord, that I can see. Many are blind.</span><br /><br />I think you can imagine why I found that a little offensive (!). The poem goes on to give thanks for things like family (because there are many who are lonely), food (because there are many who are hungry) and work (because there are many who don't have a job).<br /><br />It's okay to be thankful for those things. But the motivation behind the gratitude in the poem is all wrong. Being thankful that you have something that someone else doesn't isn't really gratitude, but superiority.<br /><br />The whole poem is really just one complaint after another. Paraphrased, it is basically saying something like:<br /><br />"Poor me, I have to listen to my alarm shrill at me day after day, and I'm forced to leave my warm, cozy bed and work for The Man just so I can come home to crying children and a demanding spouse and burned toast in a modest house... but at least I'm not like <span style="font-style:italic;">those </span>people! Even though I'm not really getting what I want, that's okay, because it could be so much worse."<br /><br />Are we really that backwards that instead of truly being humbly thankful for what we do have, we're begrudgingly noting that at least someone else is worse off than we are? What we're really doing then is assuring ourselves that we're still awesome, that we've still got one up on everyone else. This isn't really a poem of Thanksgiving, but one of entitlement. It assumes that life should be free of restrictions and authority and cold and ruined food and illness and trials. That we are special and awesome enough to deserve a perfect life and have right to pitch a fit when it doesn't go our way.<br /><br />I know this because I get behind the wheel of a car every day. I don't know what it is about driving that makes me act like a three year old, but it does. I mean, people are driving in <span style="font-style:italic;">my </span>lane. What is up with that? I did not tell them they could be there. Why are they driving so slow? Don't they know that the speed limit thingy is just a suggestion? I have someplace to be and they are slowing me down and don't they know I will be late for work if they don't MOVE. IT.?! I act like I'm the only person on the highway who has schedule to keep. All of a sudden, everything becomes about <span style="font-style:italic;">me </span>and <span style="font-style:italic;">my </span>need to get somewhere and everyone who stands in <span style="font-style:italic;">my </span>way is an enemy.<br /><br />And the truth is that I live my life this way too. I don't know how to be thankful because I assume I'm entitled to live the way I want. It's hard to say "thank you" when you're distracted by the fact that your internet connection isn't fast enough or that the kitchen isn't big enough or the weekend isn't full enough. Then trying to fake an attitude of gratitude (cue cheesy sound effect) by mumbling, "Well, at least I'm not like <span style="font-style:italic;">that </span> guy!" just doesn't cut it.<br /><br />I think true thankfulness starts with humility, with recognizing who you really are (a sinner, not awesome and yucky), what you really deserve (wrath, hell and death) and what you got instead (grace, mercy and life). Only by breaking the illusion of entitlement will I really be thankful.<br /><br />Which means I've got a long, loooooooong way to go. <br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience — among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">But God</span>, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ — by grace you have been saved — and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.</span> - <a href="http://www.gnpcb.org/esv/search/?q=Ephesians+2">Ephesians 2:1-10</a>Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-4789824268540769102010-11-24T17:00:00.002-06:002010-11-24T17:08:49.813-06:00I am a dorkI get really excited when our office closes early, as it did today for the holiday weekend. It means I get home in time to watch <span style="font-style:italic;">Jeopardy</span>. <br /><br />True story. I am a nerd like that. And I even got a few of the answers right, too. I may be using the term "right" loosely. <br /><br />Also, I heard that eggs should be room temperature because then they'll cook up fluffier. I have no idea if that applies to baking, but I'm making chocolate chip cookies and my eggs are still a little chilly. So I'm holding them in my hands to warm them up. (This is a really hilarious sentence if you understand "eggs" as part of a woman's reproductive system. Giggle. I mean, really, I'm about to bust a gut here. Tears are streaming. I entertain myself well.)<br /><br />So how exactly, you might wonder, am I typing this post?<br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">Very carefully</span>, that's how.<br /><br />Hope your Thanksgiving is egg-stra special!Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4094367751822853180.post-63939554376130215712010-11-21T21:05:00.003-06:002010-11-21T21:11:36.818-06:00Catching a whiffIs Sunday the start of your week or the end of it? I can never decide.<br /><br />The last couple of Sundays, I'v noticed that I come home smelling a lot better than when I left it. I mean, I use deodorant and everything (not like <a href="http://lifeinsidethesehearingaids.blogspot.com/2010/02/deodorant-use-it-love-it-embrace-it.html">that one time</a>), but I'm not really a body spray or perfume kind of girl. But after a morning of hugging various friends (and let's face it, the gallery just gets real crowded real fast), their body spray rubs off on me so when I get home, I have some sweet scents to remember the day by. Which is kind of lovely. <br /><br />And maybe a little creepy.<br /><br />Happy Thanksgiving Week!<br /><br />(P.S. I've enabled comment moderation. Lame, I know. Just go with it.)Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00328812352563266020noreply@blogger.com1